It took me over a year to figure out that the pursuit of work life balance is complete and utter bullshit. I mistakenly thought that if I had every part of my life compartmentalized and organized – fitness, side hustling, job, money, relationships, social life – that I would feel less stressed on this journey of adulthood.
Boy, was I wrong.
I ended up spending a lot of time and money being even MORE stressed than I already was. In fact, I was so tired from trying to keep up with everything at once that I got sick toward the end of 2011. It was then that I realized I needed to change something. I realized that I needed to start living my life by going with the flow rather than trying to control everything.
The fact is that life isn’t linear. It’s not organized. It’s not perfectly compartmentalized into equal parts.
Rather, life goes with the flow. Look at nature for example. Do you see flowers or trees trying to force and control situations? No! It’s all a cycle that they flow with! In the Spring and the Summer they bloom, come Fall and Winter they don’t. You don’t see Nature trying to fight this, it merely accepts whats happening and flows into it’s cycle.
Life is kind of like that. Sometimes work is at the forefront. The next week maybe your family needs you more. The week after that you may have a lot going on with school.
The point is you can’t completely control it – that will only make you feel worse. Rather, you just need to go with the flow and deal with whatever life is handing you at the moment.
Granted, that doesn’t mean be complacent and wait for things to happen to you. It doesn’t mean live a completely passive life. It just means don’t fight something thats already happening. Don’t try to force your life into a mold. Like one of my yoga teachers once said, “Suffering occurs when we resist that is already happening.”
So this week, instead of forcing yourself to live a perfectly balanced life try going with the flow instead.