This whole month I’ve been discussing the mindset shifts that are necessary in order for you to have a really good relationship with money and abundance. And the one I’m gonna talk about today goes really, really, really deep.
Many people think they don’t deserve money
You sort this one out, and things are going to start changing real quick. So, the mantra or the mindset shift that we’re gonna be talking about this week in terms of money is you are worthy of having money. You are worthy of having money. You’re are worthy of making it. You’re making a lot of it, right? You are worthy of keeping some of it. You are worthy of having enough. You are worthy of having more than enough for no other reason than you exist.
The way most people are operating is that there’s not enough money in the world. They think they’re too stupid to figure it out, and they themselves are not worthy of having money. So, even if they were capable of figuring it out, they are not worthy of it for whatever reason.
And it goes back to childhood most of the time. The messages we get all the time from marketing, the government, the people around us, the news, makes you think that there’s not enough money and that you’re not worthy of having any of it.
And you basically have to go through a detox. For example, I’m aware of what’s going on in the news. I’m aware of what’s going on with politics, but I’m not gonna get wrapped up into it. Because I understand that the thinking of the world when it comes to these sorts of things isn’t that great. Otherwise, we wouldn’t be in the problems that we’re in.
The mistakes you’re making trying to prove you’re worthy
And one of the biggest mistakes I see people make, especially women in business is when they’re entering business situations with this energy of having to prove themselves to the other person. They are so attached to this need for validation from the other person that they just give way too much.
That’s not the type of energy that says, “Hey, I’m worthy of money.” The type of energy that says, “Hey, I’m worthy of money”, is the one that says, “I have a lot of self-esteem, and I’m confident in what I’m bringing to the table. And, ultimately I don’t really have to prove shit to anyone. I’m inherently worthy.”
But sometimes the pushback is like, “Oh, that’s so conceited.” And, in my book, “Make Money Your Honey,” I talk about the difference between confidence and being conceited. Being conceited is someone who can’t admit they’re wrong and doesn’t take feedback. People with self-esteem and confidence, they can take feedback. But they’re going to put it through a filter to see whether or not that feedback is valid before they just decide to take it on for themselves.
How to realize that you are worthy of money
Now, what I’m talking about here is a type of energy where you realize that you are worthy just because you exist, and you are just as worthy as the person you are negotiating with. You are just as worthy as your client. You are just as worthy as your boss. Everybody’s on the same playing field here. No one is better than anybody else.
Money is ultimately just a fair exchange of value. This is something I teach my students in persuade to profit. So, for example, someone has a problem, you have a solution to their problem, you exchange money.
Money is just that physical representation of that exchange of energy. So, what I’m talking about is not, ” I’m just inherently worthy of money, so I don’t have to work for it. It’s just gonna come to me.” That’s not what I mean at all. What I mean is more, “I am equally as valuable as the person that I am speaking to. I am equally as valuable as everybody in this negotiation table. I am worthy of money. I don’t have to prove myself. I don’t have to go overboard trying to get their validation.”
At the end of the day, you’re worthy of money. So act like it.